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Holiday & New Year's Gifts
for the Unattached
12 Ways to Find More Love During Trying Times
The events of September 11th
made us feel vulnerable and more appreciative of having loved ones
close. But what if you are away from loved ones, single, divorced, or
widowed during the holidays?
Now more than ever, people
need to know how to connect with each other at a more meaningful level.
Philippa Courtney, columnist
and author of "4 Steps to Bring the Right Person into Your Life Right
Now!", offers these Twelve Gifts as a way to help the unattached find
renewed hope during the holidays and throughout the new year:
Gift One
Forgive
yourself. All your mistakes and regrets are in the past. It's time
to move on with a new view of yourself and your life. This is the
beginning of an exciting new chapter. Turn the page.
Gift Two
See
singleness as a stage. Use this precious time to discover what makes
you happy and the kind of person you want in your life so you will
recognize them when they appear.
Gift Three
Accept
yourself. You don't need to become someone else to find love. There
is no greater joy than having someone love you just as you are, warts
and all. Look at the people who already like you---see yourself through
their eyes and know that others will too.
Gift Four
Unpeel labels
that limit you. You are not your lack-of-hair, divorce, weight, lost
job, physical challenge or chronological age. These are excuses, not
explanations for why you are unattached. Your spirit defines you. See
that and others will too.
Gift Five
See
friendship as a priority. All the qualities you enjoy in a friend
can and should also be in your romantic relationships. Realize that
friendship and romance need to coexist to form a foundation on which
relationships can endure.
Gift Six
Give bad
dates the heave-ho. Date a variety of people to get a clearer sense
of the type of person you want to be with. Don't clutter your life with
people you don't like or make you feel uncomfortable. Make room for the
good ones.
Gift Seven
Focus on how
you feel about yourself when you're with someone, not on how the
other person feels about you. Choose to be around people with whom you
feel good and the right ones will find you.
Gift Eight
Exercise your
funny bone. Laugh at the absurdity of the situations and people that
you meet and you'll survive the dates with bozos and bozettes. Laugh at
life and others will smile with you.
Gift Nine
Take your
dates off the pedestal. Instead of chasing the unattainable, or
being unattainable when you're chased, seek a relationship based on
being real and your relationships will be too.
Gift Ten
Ignore
negative statistics. Everyday people over-forty find love, short,
bald men get married, and full-figured women are adored. Focus on the
supply not the shortages, then your life will always be filled with
love.
Gift Eleven
Accept the
cycles. You need space in your life to let your wounds heal or you
risk sabotaging your next relationships. The lonely times will pass
quicker by finding solace in friendships and supporting others.
Gift Twelve
Show genuine
interest in others. Listen to people; remember the things they tell
you and your sincere attention will mean more than all the fancy cars
and fabulous looks.
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People from all over the world
write to Courtney about the challenges of being single. Her
"AskPhilippa" advice column is published weekly in magazine and dating
web sites. (http://www.AskPhilippa.com/Advice.htm)
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STEPS TO BRING THE RIGHT PERSON INTO YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW!
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Author: Philippa Courtney
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