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May 1, 2001                                                                         CONTACT: Bob Fiske / 503-353-8840

10 Tips for Effective Speed Dating

In this fast paced, dot-com society singles feel pressured to establish instant rapport. According to a recent Harris poll, over 70 percent of all single men and women rate intelligence and sense of humor as the most important characteristics they're looking for in Mr. or Ms. Right. If you only have a few minutes to appear intelligent and funny, what do you do? Take a crash course in chess, read Cliff Notes for the classics, and go to clown school?

You have to find out what tickles the other person's funny bone before acting like a clown. The same is true when comes to how we express our intelligence. "It's a matter of personal style," says Philippa Courtney, advice columnist and author of "4 Steps to bring the Right Person into your life Right Now!"

Courtney's offers these tips to help singles quickly click with someone who will resonate to their intelligence and sense of humor:

Focus On How You Feel About Yourself when you're talking to someone, not on what they might be thinking about you. This helps you relax and tune into your instincts.

Find Something Positive—whether it's their eyes, smile, voice, or clothes-and focus on it. Flattery can fall flat. On the other hand, when the other person senses you are thinking pleasant thoughts about them they'll reciprocate. It's human nature to like someone who likes us.

Model Body Language. Notice how they hold their hands and head. If they put a hand on their face, try the same pose. Modeling behavior has been proven to help establish rapport.

Visualize Success. Run through some dialogue in your head before you get there. See yourself smiling and relaxed in the situation and you will.

Forget the Monologues and listen. Nothing is more appealing than having someone give you their undivided attention.

Bring Your Sense of Humor. It can be your greatest asset. But, shelve the cynicism, satire and jokes. Make fun of yourself and the situation.

Show Interest—Don't Interrogate. It's better to talk about one or two things that mutually interest you than trying to respond to a list of rapid fire questions.

Talk About the Things You Love. Enthusiasm is contagious.

Leave Your Expectations At Home. Just go to have some fun and discover what kind of person you are looking for.

Leave With A Smile and a sincere wish that you both find that special one.

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4 STEPS TO BRING THE RIGHT PERSON INTO YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW!
Trade Paperback / $14.95 / 1-58639-000-7
Author: Philippa Courtney